tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459696196850168776.post5500241581328537522..comments2023-05-06T03:22:46.821-07:00Comments on The Titanic Swim Team: Silencing the Shame by Giving Voice to ItStevehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14737973262005167895noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459696196850168776.post-81748455516232392922010-09-20T13:16:28.426-07:002010-09-20T13:16:28.426-07:00Steve,
What it true authentic shame and guilt? Doe...Steve,<br />What it true authentic shame and guilt? Does it really exist if it is a self imposed state of being? Not all people experience it for similar situations, so it is not an unconscious automatic response. It appears to be a form of self reproach employed in order to feel better about what happened. At some point it is no longer about what happened, unless we choose it to be. It becomes about how we function today. I totally agree it is about forgiveness but more importantly about seeing the futility of harboring the past in a way that cripples the present. So many deny any power in that process. <br />Thank you for your lengthy reply. <br />TimAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459696196850168776.post-63363610477496889782010-09-19T11:13:03.690-07:002010-09-19T11:13:03.690-07:00Tim, thanks for your feedback.
One of the struggle...Tim, thanks for your feedback.<br />One of the struggles or wrestling matches for me is not the issue of what I do with my dysfunctional self-imposed guilt and shame, but dealing with the true authentic shame/guilt due to wrongs committed, or on a deep core level-that dark side of me that schemes or wishes evil, if not outright engaging in it. In my opinion, neither therapy nor my own positive self-talk resolves that--only forgiveness. <br />(Sorry about the lengthy reply; thanks for reading and following.)Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14737973262005167895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6459696196850168776.post-11370059902120870302010-09-18T21:26:47.472-07:002010-09-18T21:26:47.472-07:00One of the first things I have learned in life is ...One of the first things I have learned in life is that 'what you resist, will persist'. So yes, I agree with Dr Phil on his saying that you can't fix what you don't acknowledge. However, it is my belief that it's up to each of us whether we look at things realistically and then take responsibility for our own life and happiness. If we insist on remaining guilty, shameful or broken, we will remain those. Having support is helpful in making ourselves better but when it is not used to make ourselves better, that is on us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com